Category - Preteens & Teens

Nine Ways to Connect with Your Teen

Leisure & Vacation
Preteens & Teens

As the author of a book on slow parenting, I’m often asked by parents if it’s too late to connect or re-connect with their teens. The good news? It’s not. If you’ve already established some nice routines and favorite activities, this can be a great time to revisit them. Even if you don’t have the connection you would like with your teenager, it’s not too late to forge one. The following suggestions may help. Engage in low-key, side-by-side sharing. It’s easy to forget that just as we wish to be let into our teenagers’ worlds, our teens often still need… Continue Reading

Posted by Susan Sachs Lipman on April 21, 2014

OMG! I Only Got a 95: Taming Test Anxiety

Preteens & Teens
School Challenges

Your 13-year-old has a math test tomorrow, and she’s stressing out about it. You wonder why, given that she’s always excelled in math. “But mom,” she says, “what if I don’t get above a 95?” What if she doesn’t? Why is this so important to her …. and to you? “In the super-competitive Bay Area, the fear of a low test grade can have a domino effect,” said Ellie Pelc, PsyD, a clinical psychologist at Parents Place. “I messed up on the test” soon becomes “I won’t get into a good high school,” which soon becomes “If I don’t get… Continue Reading

Posted by Ellie Pelc on April 10, 2014

Breaking the Ice: Talking to Your Children about … um, Sex

Preteens & Teens
Raising Boys
Raising Girls

“When did you lose your virginity?” Don’t be surprised if your son or daughter asks you that or another intimate question. It’s often a sign of a warm, open family dynamic when your children come to you with questions about sex and sexuality. “The key is to take advantage of the opportunity to have a good conversation,” says Mechele Pruitt, San Francisco Parents Place Director.   For some, these questions about the birds and bees come in the pre- teen or teen years. For others, they come early. “I had many memorable conversations with preschoolers while I was pregnant,” say… Continue Reading

Posted by Admin on August 9, 2013

When Should We Pull the Plug? Children & Media

Media Safety
Preteens & Teens

Joy, a mother of three, recently came to Parents Place because she thought her kids had a serious addiction … to their laptops, phones, and video games. “They spend all of their free time texting, IMing, and playing Wii games,” says Joy. Her concern is warranted, notes Holly Pedersen, MFT, PhD, Parents Place’s Community Education Director. “Studies show that the average 8- to 18-year-old spends about 7.5 hours a day on electronic devices,” says Holly, an expert in children’s use of media, including cyberbullying. “But that doesn’t necessarily make it bad. It’s more complicated than that. “Because the technology is… Continue Reading

Posted by Holly Pedersen on July 8, 2013

Family Meetings

Parenting Skills
Parents Tips
Preteens & Teens
Raising Boys
Raising Girls

In my work as a parent educator, I often hear parents’ frustration over getting their children’s cooperation in negotiating family problems. One of the most effective ways to improve communication and cooperation is through family meetings.  Aletha Solter, an internationally acclaimed developmental psychologist and author of The Aware Baby and Tears and Tantrums, writes: I highly recommend family meetings for those parents who want to become less authoritarian with their children without becoming too permissive.  Weekly meetings provide a forum in which family members can resolve conflicts in a truly democratic way. Anyone can bring up a problem, and everyone… Continue Reading

Posted by Admin on April 16, 2013

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