Category - Parenting Skills

Giving Your Child Feedback? Read This Feedback First

Discipline & Behavior
Parenting Skills
Parents Tips

How often do you find yourself giving your child a compliment in preparation for a criticism? “I love that enthusiasm, but please keep your voice down.” “Thank you for clearing the table, but next time do it the first time I ask.” Beloved family therapist Dr. Sal Minuchin referred to this as “a stroke and a kick”. While this framework is often a recommended way to make feedback more tolerable, it can unfortunately also teach children to expect or anticipate a critique when given praise. In my practice, I’ve seen children increasingly become anxious when given a compliment. I’ve also… Continue Reading


Posted by Ellie Pelc on May 7, 2018

5 Ways to Help Your Child Silence Their Inner Critic

Bullying Prevention
Discipline & Behavior
Parenting Skills
Parents Tips
Raising Boys
Raising Girls

“I’ll fail the test!” “Nobody likes me!” It’s not uncommon to hear your child utter self-critical statements like these from time to time. “We all have our inner monologues. But children, more so than adults, tend to overgeneralize, and talk themselves out of being resilient and competent,” explains Rebecca Wood, LCSW, Director of Parents Place in Marin County. She says it can be useful to think about why your child might be engaging in what experts refer to as “negative self-talk”—and learn practical ways to help your child develop a more positive inner voice. Common Reasons for Negative Self-Talk All-or-nothing… Continue Reading


Posted by Admin on April 24, 2018

From Helplessness to Action: Empowering our Children to Create a Better World

Parenting Skills
Parents Tips
Preteens & Teens
Toddlers

Mr. Rogers’ phrase “Look for the helpers” has been especially resonant lately, as we have watched youth mobilizing around the country, in the wake of school shootings, to advocate for safe schools and changes in governmental protections. From horror, tragedy, fear, and frustration comes hope, determination, action, and connection. As a Baby Boomer who spent my teens and twenties trying to fight injustice in our country and at the hands of our country, I am reminded of the importance of moving from feeling helpless to being empowered. What is happening in our country now provides wonderful opportunities for parents to… Continue Reading


Posted by Karen Friedland-Brown on April 18, 2018

How to Stop Facebook from Hijacking Your Attention

Parenting Skills
Parents Tips
Technology

We all live in the Attention Economy The most precious thing we can give to anyone or anything, particularly to our children, is our attention. And the biggest Silicon Valley companies are all racing to dominate our precious attention. Facebook. Google. Apple. But these platforms may have gotten too good for our own good. Recently, a number of technology insiders have sounded the alarm on the digital economy’s pervasive attempts to get us and our kids to continuously click, comment, scroll, like, and share. Sean Parker, the notorious Napster creator and the founding president of Facebook, has accused the world’s… Continue Reading


Posted by Admin on April 12, 2018

Three Ways to Appreciate Your Child’s Mind

Parenting Skills
Parents Tips

One of the most precious gifts you can offer your child is your attuned, curious, and attentive mind. Yet in the overwhelm of everyday life, we can often misrecognize and misinterpret our children’s behavior. We may react out of frustration or exhaustion, instead of pausing and thinking and reflecting. In Alistair Cooper and Sheila Redfern’s 2016 book Reflective Parenting: A guide to understanding what’s going on in your child’s mind, the authors provide practical and accessible exercises to support parents in cultivating this curiosity and attentiveness. These practices not only help grow your child’s mind, but also help you grow… Continue Reading


Posted by Maneesh Saini on April 9, 2018

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