Category - Discipline & Behavior

A Modest Proposal: A Preschool Satire*

Discipline & Behavior
Raising Boys
Raising Girls

The Huffington Post recently reported that an unnamed preschool moved to ban superhero play because some children were getting hurt from their dangerously overactive imaginations. I humbly offer a solution to this intractable problem. It has come to my attention over the past decade of working in early childhood that boys present a unique problem in the preschool setting. Active boys get into a wide variety of mischief, they play rough, they ram toy cars together to the point of breakage, and they insist on donning superhero capes and pretending they have imaginary powers. This can be a serious distraction… Continue Reading

Posted by Heidi Emberling on September 23, 2013

The Parenting Highway

Discipline & Behavior
Parents Tips

Balancing Nurture and Structure in Your Relationship with Your Child As a parent, you’ve probably come across the idea that we all have a “style” of parenting–a way we tend to approach this most challenging of jobs. You’ve probably heard of the “permissive,” “authoritarian,” and “authoritative” parenting styles. Many years ago, I came across the book Growing Up Again, by Jean Illsley Clarke and Connie Dawson, that changed the way I think about this issue of “parenting styles.” Based on Jean Clarke’s research at the University of Minnesota, it describes a different way of thinking about this that I want… Continue Reading

Posted by Admin on July 30, 2013

Parents as Translators

Discipline & Behavior
Parenting Skills

When a young child falls down and hurts him or herself, many parents naturally reach out and console the child with a hug and soothing words to show that they understand that the child is sad and is in pain. Occasionally, a parent feels the pull to deny the child’s suffering and say something like, “That didn’t hurt. You are a big brave boy. Show me a smile.” However, to do so is to deny the child’s reality. From the child’s perspective, it did hurt, and at that moment, he or she is not feeling brave or big and certainly… Continue Reading

Posted by John Gusman on July 22, 2013

Toddlers and Strong Emotions — Hitting, Biting, Pushing, Yelling: How to Handle Our Little Neanderthals

Discipline & Behavior

I recently got a great question from a member of our parent community about her toddler. Has something like this ever happened to you? Question: Our 2 year old son has recently started hitting himself in the face and banging his head on the floor during tantrums. It’s happened when we didn’t have more pasta to give him, when he wanted another book before bed, and when it was time to put his sleep sack on. We’ve tried to explain that it’s okay to be frustrated and angry, but hitting hurts. What can we do to help him demonstrate his… Continue Reading

Posted by Karen Friedland-Brown on April 30, 2013

Why Is My Child So Bossy?

Discipline & Behavior
Parenting Skills

Bossy behaviors appear as children begin to explore power in a social context with peers and within the parent-child relationship. These behaviors originate from the desire to organize and direct the behavior of others. Bossiness may be rooted in the following motivations: A child has a “great idea in mind and she needs others to bring it to life. (“Put the castle over here. You play the baby and I’ll play the mommy.”)   A child feels strongly about controlling the outcome of a situation. (“Don’t put the peas next to the mashed potatoes,” “I’m going first.”)     A… Continue Reading

Posted by Heidi Emberling on April 22, 2013

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