Category - Discipline & Behavior
13 Reasons Why—My child wants to watch it, how do I decide?
The popular Netflix series, 13 Reasons Why, has caused controversy among some who think the show glorifies teen suicide. The series touches on very important issues that all teens face. As a parent, you have to make the decision whether or not your child is ready to watch the widely discussed series. Of utmost importance when making this decision is to do your due diligence. Read a variety of opinions from trusted sources, watch it for yourself, and then determine if your child has the maturity and ability to process the information they will see. Remember that you are the… Continue Reading
Nurturing a Gritty Kid
Grit, as defined by world-renowned psychologist Dr. Angela Duckworth, PhD, is “our passion and perseverance for long-term goals.” It’s the effort, commitment, and determination to adapt in the face of challenge and nevertheless persist. Current cultural values too often focus on having a fixed amount of natural talent, intelligence, and giftedness. Either you have it or you don’t. Phrases that we all use with the best of intentions include, “you’re so smart!” or “what a natural!” However, Duckworth argues that the cultivation of grit, which can grow and develop, is what will truly prepare your child for a life that… Continue Reading
Six Ways to Motivate Kids to Do Chores
Getting children to do chores—and even getting ourselves to do chores—can be a chore in and of itself. We grumble and resist, and so do they! Resistance shows up no matter how big or small we are! Contributing to daily life tasks is healthy and appropriate for children to learn … and they should not be ‘paid’ to do these kinds of jobs. Our home and life together requires care and attention to which we all contribute. So how can we expect our children to be cooperative? Here are a few ideas to help your children participate: Offer choices: Create… Continue Reading
Coping with Young Kids Who Rage
Yep, I used the word ‘rage.’ You know exactly what I mean if you have a young child who has trouble handling their strong emotions and ends up screaming, melting down, and hitting you, your partner, your nanny or caregiver, or, most mortifying of all, grandma. Children who explode with anger can be aggressive and very difficult to manage, which is often distressing and scary for parents. Once the anger dissipates and children calm down, they might be remorseful, snuggly, sad, or just go back to playing as if nothing happened. It’s often this wild roller coaster of emotions that can drain… Continue Reading
The Struggle for Control: Who’s in Charge Here?
Do you have a master negotiator at home—a child who likes to control every conversation and tries to change the rules to suit his needs? If so, you may be stuck in the cycle of frequent, exhausting parent-child power struggles. Kids who crave control may fight parents on everything: daily routines, food choices, play dates, and more. They may be rigid thinkers who expect that everyone will conform to their rules, ideas, and plans. If you give such children a choice between A and B, they will most likely choose option C. They can be quite creative, intense, and persistent!… Continue Reading