Category - Discipline & Behavior

Weathering the Storms of Adolescence: To Hold on or Let Go?

Discipline & Behavior
Parents Tips
Preteens & Teens
Raising Boys
Raising Girls

During the storms of adolescence it’s a tricky balance for parents to know when to offer support and when to let go. We all want our young adults to be prepared for life, and not be stifled by a “failure to launch” into adulthood. So what’s the best way to foster independence and responsibility? And how is Parents Place’s Child and Family Clinical program and Parent Coaching program helping families get set up for success? We recently sat down with Havi Wolfson Hall, LCSW, child and adolescent therapist at Parents Place in Palo Alto, to find out. What trends are… Continue Reading


Posted by Admin on May 23, 2018

Giving Your Child Feedback? Read This Feedback First

Discipline & Behavior
Parenting Skills
Parents Tips

How often do you find yourself giving your child a compliment in preparation for a criticism? “I love that enthusiasm, but please keep your voice down.” “Thank you for clearing the table, but next time do it the first time I ask.” Beloved family therapist Dr. Sal Minuchin referred to this as “a stroke and a kick”. While this framework is often a recommended way to make feedback more tolerable, it can unfortunately also teach children to expect or anticipate a critique when given praise. In my practice, I’ve seen children increasingly become anxious when given a compliment. I’ve also… Continue Reading


Posted by Ellie Pelc on May 7, 2018

5 Ways to Help Your Child Silence Their Inner Critic

Bullying Prevention
Discipline & Behavior
Parenting Skills
Parents Tips
Raising Boys
Raising Girls

“I’ll fail the test!” “Nobody likes me!” It’s not uncommon to hear your child utter self-critical statements like these from time to time. “We all have our inner monologues. But children, more so than adults, tend to overgeneralize, and talk themselves out of being resilient and competent,” explains Rebecca Wood, LCSW, Director of Parents Place in Marin County. She says it can be useful to think about why your child might be engaging in what experts refer to as “negative self-talk”—and learn practical ways to help your child develop a more positive inner voice. Common Reasons for Negative Self-Talk All-or-nothing… Continue Reading


Posted by Admin on April 24, 2018

The Technology Rules Kids and Teens Wish Their Parents Would Follow

Discipline & Behavior
Parenting Skills
Parents Tips
Technology

A recent research study entitled Not at the Dinner Table: Parents’ and Children’s Perspectives on Family Technology Rules found that the majority of the 259 families studied have rules around social media and technology. It also found that only 6% of families have no rules or expectations at all about technology use. The researchers asked the same questions to the parents and children in each family and the conclusions were eye opening. This study also generated seven general rules children wished their parents would follow: Be present Given the rapid rise of different types of technology available to us today,… Continue Reading


Posted by Havi Wolfson Hall on March 1, 2018

5 Ways to Encourage Responsibility in Your Kids

Discipline & Behavior
Parenting Skills
Parents Tips

We all know the kids who jump up to help their parents clear the table after dinner or walk an older adult across the street, and we want our kids to be those kids. It is not hard to imagine that their instincts to do well for themselves and others will take them far in life. But how does a child without these instincts gain the same skills? How do we impart the value of responsibility and teach our children to be conscientious, competent, and reliable? Most experts agree that children pick up our values from listening to us and… Continue Reading


Posted by Beth Berkowitz on February 20, 2018

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