Category - Bullying Prevention
Thoughts on Raising Compassionate Children
I recently read an article put out by the Chopra Center shortly before their Global Meditation Day. I was moved by the article and thought to summarize it here for you. We talk about bullying, have anti-bullying curriculums, and zero tolerance in many schools for bullying and aggression. The author indicates that while children indicate that they know what bullying means, not many seem to know or understand what empathy and compassion mean. Empathy is something I emphasize to parents, in supporting their children, especially when a child is sad or angry. It is the first step to developing a… Continue Reading
Challenging Bullying from the Inside Out
Bullying is complicated in every way—why a particular child is targeted, how a relationship can shift from friendly to hostile, and the absence of a quick and easy strategy for preventing bullying. Despite its complexity, however, there is one way we can simplify our intervention when a child is bullied. We can approach the problem from the inside out. By this, I mean that we must first address what the child is feeling on the inside before moving on to what we can do externally. Inside a child who has been bullied are intense feelings in need of soothing and,… Continue Reading
When a Tummy Ache Is Not Just a Tummy Ache: Dealing with School Anxiety
The first day of school, your son has a tummy ache. You take his temperature, but you already know that what’s really ailing him is another common childhood ailment: school phobia. “Many children experience extreme anxiety when they enter new situations—new schools, teachers, classmates, and academic challenges,” says Mimi Ezray, LCSW, MPH, Coordinator of Children’s Clinical Services at Peninsula Parents Place. “Understand that trying to avoid school is not unusual and there are many effective strategies to help ease and manage their fears,” says Mimi. In addition to offering your children emotional support, reassuring them, and addressing their specific concerns, Mimi says, you… Continue Reading
How Do You Quiet the Buzz of Cyberbullying?
“He is such a faxxx like i can’t belief his dum stupid shirt. what a xxxx fairy.” Has your child ever received a text like this? If so, he has experienced cyberbullying. “When one child targets another through an electronic device like an iPhone to threaten, humiliate, or torment, he or she has engaged in cyberbullying,” says bullying expert Holly Pedersen, MFT, PhD, Director of the Community Education Center of Parents Place on the Peninsula. “What makes this form of bullying so lethal is that it usually falls under the radar until it’s too late—when the message goes viral. In extreme… Continue Reading
Bullying in Preschool?
The preschool years are foundational for children’s social and emotional development—a time when children’s social interactions increase dramatically as they move from parallel to more collaborative play with peers. Not surprisingly, this means more social and communication missteps as children learn how to interact and connect to each other while their social, communication, and emotion-management skills are still in the very early stages of development. What all of this means is that most of the problems you are seeing between and among preschoolers, particularly those under 4, are often signs of poor impulse control and limited language skills, not indications… Continue Reading