Category - Birth – First Year
Inconsolable Baby, Inconsolable Parent
When your baby cries inconsolably, you may feel inconsolable as well. It’s hard to watch your child in great distress and feel there is nothing you can do to comfort him or her. The source of inconsolable crying may be an immature digestive system, which causes gas, or overstimulation. Sometimes, there’s no perceptible source at all. Whatever the source, here are some techniques you can try to comfort the baby: Walk or dance with your baby. Music or singing often helps calm both parent and baby. Place your baby tummy-down across your lap and gently rub or pat his or… Continue Reading
New Parent … Again?
“My second baby is due soon, and I am so worried about how I’m going to have enough time—and love!—for both of them!” Of all of the concerns expressed by expectant and new second-time parents, this is the one I’ve heard most frequently in my roles as nurse practitioner, lactation consultant, family educator, and mom of four. Here are a few of the strategies the moms in my “second-time moms” groups have found helpful in easing the transition from family of three to family of four: When the new baby is born, try to keep your toddler’s routine the same… Continue Reading
Nobody Told Me that Breastfeeding Would Be Hard!
As a nurse practitioner and lactation consultant for many years, I have heard many new mothers talk about how difficult it is to breastfeed. Let’s dispel some of the myths about breastfeeding: Myth #1 Breastfeeding just comes naturally to moms. No! While often instinctive to babies, breastfeeding is no more instinctive to moms than barbecuing is to dads. It is learned behavior and gets easier with guidance and practice. Myth #2 Everyone has pain in the first weeks of breastfeeding. No! Pain is ALWAYS a sign that something is wrong. Please know that it can often be prevented, and that… Continue Reading
New Year’s Resolutions for Parents of Young Children
For some, January 1 is a new beginning: a time for us to refresh, set new goals, or make a short list of resolutions for the coming year. Instead of getting stuck in the diets-always-start-tomorrow mentality, this is a perfect time to choose a reasonable goal and begin right away. In my work, I focus on creating strong parent-child relationships. Why not create some resolutions around improving your connection with your young child? Here are three ways to get started: 1) Listen more, talk less. Parents often complain that their children aren’t listening to them. In truth, most of the… Continue Reading
The Only Child Bond – Saying Good-Bye
Recently, one of my clients who is expecting her second child expressed feelings of sadness and guilt over her pregnancy because she was anticipating the diminished time and attention she would have for her first child, a son. She and most of the other parents I know with two or more children have experienced these feelings—a normal reaction for both parents. Our first child often recapitulates the experience of our first love. The first child captivates our attention and sense of wonder. We devote a tremendous amount of time to our first children—even when they do not require it. The… Continue Reading