In Praise of Praise
As a family, we have always been committed to eating dinner together. Even if someone has to run off to an evening commitment and we only have 30 minutes or less, we do everything we can to make it work. Research has shown that eating dinner together has a positive impact on your children … even if they appear to have little to say. The action itself speaks volumes. During many of our dinnertime check-ins, the conversation used to go as follows. Parent: “What did you do at school today?” Child: “Nothing.” Parent: “Who did you hang out with at… Continue Reading
This Just In: “Negative Parenting” linked to Misbehavior!
In other breaking news, plants and humans need oxygen, water and sunlight to survive. Did we really need a report from the UK Government Department of Education (whew it’s not just US) to reveal the correlation between a lack of discipline and anti-social behavior? Wait, so “critical and inconsistent parents who don’t set rules or examples of good behavior are twice as likely to have aggressive and disruptive children?” What a crazy, unpredictable world we live in. This ground-breaking study goes on to show “that ‘harsh and inconsistent’ discipline is breeding a generation of young children with anger management problems,… Continue Reading
When Your Children Lie: How Parents Can Teach Truthfulness
Raising children to be honest, ethical, and responsible is as important as raising them to master reading, writing, and arithmetic. Honesty, ethics, and responsibility are more than mere character traits. They are essential life skills that must be learned. Here are strategies for teaching truthfulness and for addressing those challenging situations when you have discovered that your children have lied. Encourage Truthfulness: Accountability Rather Than Punishment Encouraging truthfulness is more effective than punishing dishonest behavior. This approach starts with controlling your own anger and other intense emotional responses associated with having been lied to by your children. Anger creates fear… Continue Reading
Are You Ready to Rock Your Inner Mama?
Have you ever stopped and noticed yourself being amazing? We all have those parenting moments when things are just working and we’re proud of how we’re doing. And then there are those other moments—those moments when things just aren’t working. Our frustration yields impatience or impulsivity, and our ability to operate from our deepest parenting values disintegrates. In those moments, the background conversation is usually disempowering and negative. While these thoughts may never cease, we can train our minds to replace them quickly with positive thoughts. One thing we know from research is that, be they conscious or not, thoughts… Continue Reading
Embracing Life’s Little Victories
Last weekend was my son’s first middle school dance. He came home from school at the beginning of the week excited at the prospect of attending the dance. He thought about what he was going to wear and bought his ticket. The night of the dance, I heard the blow dryer going and my son, who generally doesn’t care about such things, made sure he smelled good. He asked for money so he could buy himself and his friend’s snacks at the dance. I drove him to the dance and walked behind him as he ran into one of his… Continue Reading